Defending the Mind: Unraveling the Tricks We Play on Ourselves

Defense is the act of resisting an attack. When we think about defense, concepts like war, politics, sociology, and resistance may come to mind—weapons, strategies, fights, enemies. But what if the enemy was within us?

Our own immune system builds internal walls and adapts during times of internal distress.

We naturally develop defenses around and within us, which become automatic mechanisms we use in different situations. When distress hits us, our unconscious mind employs resources to lessen internal discomfort. These psychological strategies serve to protect us from unpleasant emotions such as anxiety or guilt that arise when we feel threatened. They shield us from distressing thoughts, feelings, or situations. Our conscious personality, also known as the ego, utilizes these mechanisms as resources to minimize conflicts.

The human mind is a fascinating labyrinth of thoughts, emotions, and behaviors. In navigating the complexities of our internal world, defense mechanisms play a significant role. These psychological mechanisms act as protective shields, helping us cope with uncomfortable emotions, threats, and stressors. While defense mechanisms serve a purpose, understanding them is crucial for personal growth and healthy relationships.

These defenses are as normal and natural as we are. They are captivating tools our minds employ to protect us from emotional turmoil and maintain a sense of psychological equilibrium.

As human beings, we often encounter challenging situations and experiences that can threaten our well-being. Defense mechanisms act as invisible shields, helping us cope with these threats, although sometimes at the cost of our self-awareness.

While defense mechanisms aim to protect us, they can also have unintended consequences on our personal growth and relationships. When defense mechanisms become excessive or rigid, they can prevent us from facing and resolving underlying issues, inhibiting self-awareness and emotional growth.

In relationships, defense mechanisms can create barriers to intimacy and trust. Projection, for instance, can distort our perceptions of others, leading to misunderstandings and conflicts. Denial and rationalization can hinder effective communication and problem-solving. Recognizing and understanding these defense mechanisms is vital for building healthier connections and fostering emotional well-being.

Identifying and recognizing these processes helps us improve our self-awareness and gain a new perspective on ourselves and our behaviors.

It’s important to note that there are different types of defense mechanisms, much like there are different types of weapons. Let’s discuss some of them.

Historically, Sigmund Freud (1894, 1896) discussed several ego defenses in his writings. His daughter Anna (1936) expanded on these mechanisms and added some of her own findings. Additionally, many psychoanalysts have contributed new mechanisms over time.


Imagine learning from a friend that your spouse is cheating on you. The initial response might be, “No way! This can’t be true!” This reaction is called denial, which is used to avoid discomfort. Denial involves dismissing external realities and focusing on internal explanations when we refuse to acknowledge or accept the truth. We block external events from our awareness because the situation may be too overwhelming. Denial acts as a protective barrier against unpleasant or threatening information.

Denial can be adaptive in the short term, allowing individuals to manage overwhelming situations. However, long-term denial can hinder personal growth and impede problem-solving.

For example, someone may refuse to accept a terminal illness diagnosis and seek multiple opinions in the hope of a different outcome. Similarly, a person with a drinking problem may vehemently deny having any issues with alcohol, despite clear evidence of dependency.


Let’s move on to another defense mechanism. Repression occurs when we forcefully push disturbing thoughts or feelings into our subconscious, preventing them from disturbing us consciously. It involves subconsciously blocking distressing thoughts, memories, or impulses, preventing them from surfacing in our consciousness.

Anna Freud referred to this defense mechanism as “motivated forgetting.”

We often repress thoughts that would evoke guilt.

While repression shields us from immediate discomfort, unresolved repressed emotions can manifest in other ways, such as dreams or slips of the tongue.

Repression is one of the most fundamental defense mechanisms. For example, an individual may experience a traumatic event during childhood and have no conscious recollection of it as an adult. Another example is failing an important exam and completely forgetting about it.


Have you ever noticed that a liar may accuse everyone else of lying? Or someone who used to cheat on their partner accuses them of infidelity? This is a common reaction called projection. Anna Freud proposed this defense mechanism, explaining that individuals use projection to attribute unwanted feelings, thoughts, or characteristics to another person. It is the opposite of turning against oneself. In other words, you project your own desires onto someone else to distance yourself from discomfort.

The risk is creating a distorted view of reality, often leading to conflicts and misunderstandings in relationships.

For example, someone may accuse others of incompetence or lack of skills because they feel insecure about their abilities.


Sometimes, our Id desires something that our Superego doesn’t permit. Where does all that energy go? The Ego, always in the middle, tries to release this energy in other ways. Emotional reactions or burdens are transferred from one entity to another. Displacement involves redirecting emotions, impulses, or desires from their original target onto a substitute target that is considered less threatening or more socially acceptable. It serves as a way to release pent-up emotions or tension in a safer or more socially appropriate manner. By displacing emotions onto a different target, we can avoid the potential consequences or discomfort that may arise from expressing those emotions directly.

Imagine constantly experiencing frustration and stress at work due to a demanding boss. Instead of confronting the boss directly, you may suppress your anger and redirect it toward a less threatening target. For instance, you may come home and snap at your family members or engage in a heated argument with your partner over trivial matters. In this case, your family becomes the target of displaced anger.


Similar to displacement, sublimation occurs when we displace unacceptable emotions into something else, but this time, these unwanted emotions are replaced by socially acceptable and constructive behaviors. According to Freud, all arts and sciences are the result of sublimated sexuality. Furthermore, someone may channel their energy and aggression into boxing.

Sublimation allows individuals to transform their energy into productive and constructive activities, making it a healthier defense mechanism compared to others.

For example, an individual with aggressive tendencies becomes a professional boxer, channeling their aggression into a competitive sport. Another person dealing with grief may channel their emotions into writing or art to express their feelings and cope with their loss.


Have you ever noticed that when you feel troubled or frightened, your behavior may become more childish? This is when the ego reverts to an earlier stage of psychological development in response to stressful situations. Searching for safety, you retreat by engaging in childlike behaviors, seeking comfort in familiar patterns.

While regression can provide temporary relief, relying on it as a long-term defense mechanism may hinder personal growth and independence.

For example, an adult under extreme stress may start sucking their thumb as a way to find comfort and reduce anxiety. Or when faced with a challenging situation, a person throws a temper tantrum, resorting to childlike behavior to express frustration.


Let’s say you’re rejected from your dream college, and you tell yourself that you’re happy to attend a less competitive and more welcoming school. Or maybe a disaster occurs, and you explain it as “God’s will.” When you find a situation difficult to accept, you may create logical reasons why it happened. This is called rationalization. Rationalization involves creating logical and seemingly acceptable explanations for one’s thoughts, actions, or behaviors, helping you justify your actions, protect your self-esteem, and avoid guilt or shame.

This defense mechanism involves distorting facts to make an event less threatening. We tend to provide ourselves with excuses to accept what happened. However, excessive rationalization can hinder personal accountability and prevent true self-reflection.


Humor is a defense mechanism that many people employ to decrease or avoid unwanted emotions associated with a specific situation. By using comedy, we try to alleviate discomfort. For example, telling a funny story during a eulogy.

Humor can provide temporary relief and serve as a coping mechanism in difficult situations. It allows us to find joy and laughter even in challenging times.

Reaction Formation

Reaction formation occurs when a person replaces their initial impulse toward a person, idea, or situation with the opposite impulse.

It involves adopting an exaggerated attitude or behavior that is diametrically opposed to one’s true feelings or desires.

For example, someone who teases or insults a romantic interest they actually like may be exhibiting reaction formation. Similarly, a person may show excessive kindness to someone they dislike.

While often essential for navigating the complexities of life, defense mechanisms can also limit our personal growth and inhibit meaningful connections. By exploring and understanding these psychological shields, we gain insights into our own behavior and emotional well-being.

As we explore our inner selves, let’s aim to find a middle ground between protecting ourselves and being open to vulnerability. This path will lead to increased self-awareness and better mental well-being.